Recently in correspondence with my Mistress, Mrs Birch I made the most thoughtless, rude and disgusting reference to wiping my bum. Mistress was rightfully appalled and as part of my punishment put me on detention to write an essay on the subject. After completing the essay, Mistress thought it would be a good idea for me to post it on the web as a warning to other sissies to always mind their manners. Here is the completed essay.

An Essay on the inappropriateness of mentioning bum wiping to my Mistress

In this essay I will explore the reasons why it is inappropriate for me to mention bum wiping to my Mistress. I will frame my reasons in the context of the Mistress/sissy maid relationship but of course the same reasons will mostly be applicable to any relationship where politeness and respect are at the heart of the relationship, The situation arose last week when I had removed my chastity device but had forgotten to remove the ring that sits behind my testicles. In my daily report I told Mistress that I noticed this only later when wiping my bum. While it was appropriate to let Mistress know that I had forgotten to remover the ring that sits behind my testicles it was disrespectful, rude and impolite of me to mention that I was not wearing the ring at the moment of wiping my bum. All I needed to say was that I noticed I had not removed the device’s ring when I went to the toilet. This was certainly a case of too much information.

Respect is a virtue in all human interactions but it takes on a deeper and more important role for the sissy maid. A good sissy maid has the highest respect for her Mistress and this manifests itself in her every  thought and action. She is always thinking of her Mistress’s needs, has impeccable manners and has an awareness of how her words and actions will effect he Mistress. At the heart of this matter, my mention of bum wiping was inappropriate because it displayed an acute thoughtlessness of the effect that reading it would have on my Mistress. By doing this I have shown a deep lack of respect for my Mistress and am ashamed and truly sorry.

Good manners and etiquette are one of the ways we can display our respect to others. As a good sissy maid should want nothing more than to display the utmost respect to her Mistress, It is essential that she is always striving to have impeccable manners. The words we use in both speech and writing are one of the ways we display our manners and etiquette. Words are incredibly powerful. Language is one of the most powerful tools humans have created. Words can create images in the readers mind. The power that language has can be both a good thing and a bad thing. By mentioning bum wiping in my daily report I caused an awful image to appear in Mistress’s mind. A crude disgusting and repulsive image that was just not appropriate but disrespectful as well.

As a sissy maid in training I want nothing more than one day to be a fully fledged Mrs Birch trained sissy maid. Incidents like this inappropriate mention of bum wiping only make it harder for me to progress. I must always be aware of how my words will effect my Mistress. There is no place for careless and thoughtless words that create repulsive and repugnant images in Mistress’s imagination. A good sissy maid carefully chooses her words and considers the impact they will have on her Mistress.

WHile the mentioning of bum wiping is inappropriate in most situations what makes this indiscretion worse is that I knew my Mistress has the highest standards of cleanliness and hygiene. Mistress has always insisted that I present myself to her showered and clean with all my clothes and underwear freshly laundered. Mistress also insists that I wash my sheets regularly and follow my domestic chores schedule to keep my own house clean and hygienic. Whenever I visit Mistress she is always immaculate, well groomed and clean. Her house is also very clean. It is obvious Mistress takes great pride in her appearance and maintains the highest standards of cleanliness and hygiene. So for me to so thoughtlessly and inappropriately use my words to create an image in my Mistress’s mind of something so dirty and repulsive makes this incident so much worse given Mistress’s high standards of cleanliness and hygiene. Not only that but with me being aware of Mistress’s high standards of cleanliness and hygiene I should have realized that She would have been repulsed more than most people and stopped myself from making such an inappropriate remark in my daily report. ANother clue that Mistress would have been repulsed by my inappropriate remark is the rule Mistress has imposed about milking privileges. Under no circumstances am I to tell Mistress anything about milking privileges. This should have been enough to make me realize that Mistress would not want to hear about me cleaning my bottom. To place that image in Mistress’s sensibilities. After more than three years of training there is no excuse for such a thoughtless and disrespectful comment and I am fully deserving of all the consequences that follow including this essay.

A good sissy maid is a demure sissy maid. She is pleasant, well mannered and refined. THere is no place for crude, oafish or offensive behavior. Mistress should be able to enjoy interacting with her sissy maid, she should be a pleasure to be around. A chaste, demure, obedient, well behaved sissy maid wants nothing more than to please her Mistress, make her happy and hopefully put a smile on Her face. This incident has done the exact opposite. It has created a repugnant and repulsive image in Mistress’s imagination. It has caused Her to have a moment of disgust and revulsion. The exact opposite of what I should be trying to achieve as a sissy maid in training.

ANother important goal for the aspiring sissy maid is to develop the mindset that her purpose in life is to do all that she can to make her Mistress’s life better. While obedience is crucial in this quest there are times when a sissy maid has to use her own discretion and judgement. Being a good sissy maid is more than just obediently following orders and obeying all Her rules. A good sissy maid will want to go above and beyond her duties and be willing to move heaven and earth in order to please her Mistress. A good sissy maid is thinking about her Mistress often. A good sissy maid asks how she can best please Mistress in the task she is doing at that present moment. If I had been in the correct sissy maid mindset when writing that daily report instead of allowing thoughtlessness and carelessness to creep in I could have avoided making such a crude and thoughtless remark that caused Mistress such distaste and displeasure. SO the remark about bum wiping was also inappropriate from the viewpoint that it was in exact contrast with my goal of making Mistress’s life better and more pleasant.

The remark about bum wiping was also highly inappropriate from the viewpoint that it displayed a lack of gratitude for Mistress’s training. Every day I have the incredible privilege of having Mistress read my daily reports. Mistress’s comment have been an incredible vehicle for helping me to learn and grow in my quest to become a fully fledges Mrs Birch trained sissy maid. Many times Mistress has been able to identify faults and infractions from my reports that I was unaware of and then impose a consequence that has taught me valuable lesson. The picking up of this infraction and this very essay and the weekend detention consequences is the most recent example where Mistress has picked up something from my daily reports and taught me a valuable lesson. THere are also times when Mistress has praised me and given me a “well done”. It is hard to express the joy I feel in these moments. I think that because Mistress does have such high standards and is so brutally honest with me, a “well done” from Mistress means so much more to me than it does coming from anyone else that I know. So as you can see I have a lot to be grateful for that every day Mistress takes the time from her busy schedule to read and respond to my daily reports and give me such wonderful and constructive feedback. My spirits lift and I am always excited to see an email from my Mistress in my inbox. So one way I can display my gratitude for this incredible service is to make sure my daily reports are well written, succinct, report all infractions and display the respect that my Mistress so deeply deserves. My comment about bum wiping failed miserably in this regard. It was inappropriate and repulsive and therefore did not reflect the gratitude that I have for all the effort that Mistress puts in to reading and responding to my reports. In fact it did the opposite, it gave the impression that I was no grateful for this service as it caused Mistress unnecessary distaste and displeasure when she read it and imagined it.

Another reason it is inappropriate to mention bum wiping to Mistress is simple common sense. It should have been manifestly clear to me that it is not something that is discussed in polite circles and therefor totally inappropriate to mention it to Mistress. AS civilized human beings living in modern society we have built up a set of sensibilities around our need to get rid of our waste products. We build our toilets designing them for privacy and usually there is a lock on the door. It is generally not a topic for conversation especially in polite society where people want to show respect for each other. If we do have problems in  this department it is a conversation we can have with our health professional. In hindsight I do not know what possessed me to to write such a thing. WHy I would even think that Mistress needed to know such a detail. It added nothing of any meaning or substance to my daily report and only served to cause Mistress distaste and revulsion. I would never think it is appropriate to mention bum wiping in a work or social setting due to common sense that it is repugnant, yet here I was mentioning it to Mistress whom I hold in much higher esteem than any of my work colleagues or clients. THe more of this essay I write the more shame I feel and I keep asking myself how could I be so thoughtless and careless.

Another reason it is inappropriate to mention bum wiping to Mistress is that I do not know what Mistress is doing while she is reading my daily report. If there is one time when most people do not want to think about vile and disgusting things above any other time it is while they are eating, especially at breakfast. In this context the word distasteful seems even more appropriate to describe my inappropriate remark. If I was a better sissy maid who truly had her Mistress’s needs and happiness top of mind I would not have made such an in a inappropriate remark, I am determined to learn from this mistake and improve in the future.

The comment about bum wiping was also inappropriate because it was irrelevant and off topic in regards to my daily report. Over the years of my chastity training Mistress has told me on many occasions to focus my report on the effects of the chastity training. Often I have gone off on tangents and written about other areas of my life such as discussing family or work issues. Mistress was quick to correct me in such situations and remind me to stay on topic and focus the daily report only on the effects of the chastity training. Mistress is a very busy woman and her time is valuable so to include things in my report that are irrelevant to my training is just wasting her precious time. AS well as being rude, thoughtless and repugnant my comment was inappropriate as it wasted Mistress’s time not only due to the fact that she had to read it but also had to waste more time writing back to me and reprimanding me. Mistress then had to spend more time considering the consequence and setting the detention.

In conclusion my comment about wiping my bottom was an incredibly inappropriate remark for a number of different reasons. It showed a lack of respect for my wonderful Mistress, it was rude and forced Mistress to conjure up a most disgusting image in her mind. It was compounded by the fact that Mistress has the most impeccable and highest standards of cleanliness and hygiene which makes my comment even more repulsive in comparison. The comment was inappropriate for a sissy maid to make as a sissy maid should be demure and well mannered. A good sissy maid should always be focussed on making her Mistress’s life better and easier but my comment did the exact opposite. Finally the comment was thoughtless and inappropriate as it failed to show the immense gratitude I have for Mistress for the time She puts into reading and responding to my reports. I have learnt so much from her comments and feel ashamed that I have not only offended Her with my rude remark but wasted her valuable time as well.

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